God's Word on That

Category: Unforgiveness

Promises dealing with forgiving from your heart

  • Don’t Forget To Pray For Those Who Hurt You

    A prayer for forgiveness that can help us remain open to grace:

    O Lord Jesus, You know how upset we are because of the harm done to us. You forgave those who harmed You. Please help us to forgive, so we will not be destroyed by anger, or hatred, or revenge. Help those who have harmed us to follow You, so they may not hurt others. We place ourselves in Your care. Bless us with Your strength and peace and love, so what has happened to us may cause no further damage. Instead, let us grow ever stronger, full of compassion and courage and hope. Loving Lord, please give us grace to move ahead, walking always with You, at Your side. Amen.

    Sometimes it is easier to pray with a prayer partner.

    Father, my heart’s desire and my prayer to You is for _____’s salvation (Romans 10:1). Please redeem and be gracious to him/her (Psalm 26:11). Turn Your face upon him/her and be generous to him/her (Psalm 25:16). Surround him/her with songs of deliverance (Psalm 32:7). Keep him/her as the apple of Your eye (Psalm 17:8). Answer when he/she is in distress; protect him/her and send help from Your sanctuary to grant him/her support (Psalm 20:1-2). I pray too that he/she commits his/her way to You, gracious Lord, and he/she will trust in You and You will do this: You will make Your righteousness shine like the dawn (Psalm 37:5-6).

    Father, I pray for _____:

    …That You would give him/her the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so he/she may know You better (Ephesians 1:17).

    …That wisdom will enter his/her heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to his/her soul. I pray that discretion will protect him/her, and that understanding will guard him/her, and that wisdom will save him/her from the ways of the wicked (Proverbs 2:10-12).

    …That his/her love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so he/she may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ’s return, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes though Christ Jesus – to the praise and glory of Your name, my God and Father (Philippians 1:9-11).

    …That he/she will be wise about what is good, and innocent about what is evil (Romans 16:19).

    …That he/she will be patient and not quick-tempered (Proverbs 14:29).

    …That You will guide him/her in Your truth and teach him/her Your paths; for You are my all-powerful God (Psalm 25:4-5).

    …That the peace of Christ Jesus will rule in his/her heart and in my heart, since as members of one body we were called to peace. And help us be thankful, letting the Word of Christ dwell in us richly (Colossians 3:15-16).

    Now to You, Glorious Father, who is able to do immeasurably more than all I ask or could imagine for _____, to You be glory forever and ever. Amen (Ephesians 3:20-21).

  • God’s Word Is Plain On This

    Lord God, merciful Father, as hard as this may be for me to comprehend or rationalize, Your Word is clear. If I forgive others when they sin against me, You, my heavenly Father, will also forgive me (Matthew 6:14). For You, O my loving God, are a forgiving God (Nehemiah 9:14). Lord, I confess to You that one of my greatest temptations is to refuse forgiveness to others. Please help me see the sober reality of Your will on this matter. And, dearest Lord Jesus, save me from this sin.

    God’s Word is simple, uncompromising truth.

    You, God, tell me to love even my enemies, to do good to those who hate me, bless those who curse me, and pray for those who mistreat me (Luke 6:27-28). I am to pray for those who persecute me (Matthew 5:44). Dearest Jesus, please change my heart to accomplish this.

    Father, help me to understand that the punishment and repercussions that come to people when they have done wrong is often sufficient for them. Instead of causing more grief, Your Word says I ought to forgive and comfort the person, so he or she will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow (2 Corinthians 2:7). Lord, Help me to be the kind of person I would want ministering to me after I have failed.

    O Lord Jesus, when I want so badly to judge, condemn, or refuse to forgive another person, I can hear Your Words speak to my heart: If you are without sin, be the first to throw a stone (John 8:7). I am not without sin (1 John 1:8). If I claim to be without sin, I deceive only myself, and Your truth is not in me.

    You have also said, “Be in agreement with one another. Do not be proud. Instead associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own estimation” (Romans 12:16). Please, dearest Lord, keep me from such haughtiness.

    Your Word clearly states that each of us will give an account to You (Romans 14:10-13). Therefore please help me stop passing judgment on others. Instead I now make up my mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in my brother’s way. Lord Jesus, please help me to keep this vow.

    Almighty and loving God, through the power of Your Holy Spirit help me to live in harmony with others, to be sympathetic, loving as a sibling, to be compassionate and humble. Help me never to repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessings because to this I was called so I may inherit a blessing (1 Peter 3:8-9).

    If I do not judge, I will not be judged. If I do not condemn, I will not be condemned. If I forgive, I will be forgiven (Luke 6:37). Teach me, O Lord God, to extend more grace to others, and in so doing I will continue to receive more grace.

  • Verses To Help Us Forgive

    I know who I have believed, and am convinced that You, O Lord, are able to guard what I have entrusted to You. I entrust this situation to You, my sovereign Lord (2 Timothy 1:12). Lord God, You will take up my case; You will redeem my life. You have seen, O Lord, the wrong done to me. Uphold my cause! (Lamentations 3:58-59) O merciful Lord, open my eyes to see that when You are upholding my cause, I don’t have to. Help me to lay this burden down and let You carry it instead.

    Do not let un-forgiveness ruin your soul.

    As one of God’s chosen, I am to be accepting of others and forgiving others, especially when I have a complaint against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven me, so also I must forgive (Colossians 3:13). I am to be kind and compassionate, forgiving others just as God also forgave me in Christ Jesus (Ephesians 4:32).

    Whenever I stand praying, if I have anything against another, I must forgive so that my Father in Heaven will also forgive me and hear my prayers (Mark 11:25). Jesus said: “Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times a day, and comes back to you seven times saying “I repent”, you must forgive him.” (Luke 17:3-4)

    Jesus, when Peter asked about forgiving his brother seven times, You told him that our Father will also not forgive us if we do not forgive from the heart (Matthew 18:21, 35). Lord Jesus, please teach me to grasp how to forgive from my heart.

    Lord, if being obedient to You causes me to suffer, I shall commit myself to my faithful Creator and continue to do as You ask. You are honorable and always faithful; You will always cause obedience to bear fruit. (1 Peter 4:19)

    You have shown me what is good, and what do You, Lord God, require of me? Only to act justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with You, my Loving God (Micah 6:8).

    O my wise and compassionate God, according to Your Word, love is the most excellent way to deal with anything (1 Corinthians 12:31). O Father, please cause the love of Christ Jesus to compel me to do what is right in this challenging situation (2 Corinthians 5:14).

  • To Overcome Un-forgiveness

    Each of us has faced overwhelming challenges to forgive. Eventually though, truth begins to eclipse any excuse: we won’t be OK until we forgive. God’s unrelenting insistence on our forgiveness is for our own sakes, not the sake of the one who hurt us — our un-forgiveness doesn’t hurt them! God is faithful. He will plead our case and take up our cause… but only when we make a deliberate decision to cease representing ourselves in the matter.

    We never look more like Jesus than when we forgive.

    Keep in mind that forgiveness is not defined by a feeling, although it will ultimately change our feelings. Forgiveness is our determined and deliberate willingness to let something go — to release it from our possession and send it to God. God is not asking us to let “it” go haphazardly into the black hole of nonexistence. Forgiveness is the ongoing act by which we agree with God over the matter, practice the mercy He extends to us, and surrender the situation, repercussions, and the hurtful person into His hands.

    Pray for willingness-to-forgive to come to you, but also pray for that person you are having trouble forgiving. There are three parts to ‘forgiveness’ praying: (1) prayers for a forgiving attitude in yourself, (2) prayers specifically about the person you are struggling to forgive, and (3) prayers for the person you are struggling to forgive.

    Your ways are not my ways, Lord God. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are Your ways higher than mine (Isaiah 55:8-9). I may not always understand Your ways, my Lord, but they are always prosperous (Psalm 10:5). Your ways are always righteous (Psalm 145:17). Your ways, O God, are holy (Psalm 77:13). Your ways are loving and faithful(Psalm 25:10). I have considered my ways, Lord (Psalm 119:59), and I choose Yours instead. Please keep me from deceitful ways (Psalm 119:29). Lord God, loving Father, help me to walk in Your ways (Psalm 119:3).

    Father, I forgive everyone who has trespassed against me so that You can forgive me my trespasses (Matthew 6:12). Father, Your Word tells me to love my enemies and pray for those who persecute me (Matthew 5:44, Luke 6:27-28). So I come before you in Jesus’ name to lift up _____ before You. I invoke blessings upon him/her and pray for his/her happiness. I implore You, please, to bless him/her. And not only will I pray for _____, but I set myself up to treat him/her well; I will be merciful, sympathetic, tender, responsive, and compassionate toward him/her even as You are, my loving Father. For I am Your child and want to be an imitator of You, my Lord God (Ephesians 5:1), and I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13).

    So Father, I thank You that I have great peace in this situation, for I love Your law and refuse to take offense toward _____ (Psalm 119:165). I am blessed — that is, happy with life; I have joy and satisfaction in God’s favor, and in salvation apart from outward conditions — because I take no offense and refuse to be hurt or resentful or annoyed or repelled or made to stumble [whatever may occur] (Luke 7:23 Amplified).

    And now, Father, I roll this work entirely upon You — I commit and trust it wholly into Your hands; and believe that You will cause my thoughts to come into agreement with Your will, and so my plans shall be established and succeed (Proverbs 16:3). Amen.